The Ridiculous Idea

How often do we find ourselves offended through the course of a day; a single day? Our spouse, before coffee, mutters a statement sealed with a hiss. A fellow driver pulls out in front of us en route to work. A co-worker, for whatever reason, creates an undesirable situation with a supervisor. A sibling attacks with harsh words. A child rewards parenthood with disobedience.

The list is endless. You, I’m confident have your own list even if I missed it here. There is no lack of reasons to be offended; angered by the actions of others.

What would it mean however if there were another response available to offences rather than being offended, rather than becoming angry?

Brant Hansen’s “Un-off-end-able” is a book written to acknowledge that there is such a response available to us.

But… is he right? Better still, is it wrong to become angry when someone offends us? I mean, isn’t anger a normal reaction to an offensive action? Shouldn’t I be allowed the opportunity to respond in the expected response to those who offend me?

Well, what do you think? I merely opened a book and began reading. There is of course no requirement on my or your part to agree, but hopefully respond.

Is it okay to be angry with someone else? Is it okay to retaliate? Is it okay hold others accountable for their actions by use of my ability to become offended and angry?

I’m intentionally ending here. Thank you for reading, and I hope you feel the need to respond… the court here is widely open.

About mtsweat

Seeking the rest that is only promised and found in Christ Jesus, along with my treasured wife of more than twenty-five years, we seek to grow in our relationship with our Heavenly Father, walk with the Holy Spirit as He moves our hearts, loving others always as Jesus loves us, and carry the news of His glory, the wonderful gospel, that gives light and life where there once was only darkness.
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6 Responses to The Ridiculous Idea

  1. Hank says:

    Is God ever offended? Does God ever get angry over these offenses?

    • mtsweat says:

      Glad you visited old friend. Definitely want to consider more than the author’s view. It is a bit forward in the book but this writer addresses just your thoughts. Not getting there quite yet, but he will question whether we have the right to be angry merely because God does have every right to be. He asks do we have the right to take vengeance on an offender? God does. Anyway, hoping you continue to drop in with a differing opinion… we need to look from every angle.

      • hankcr says:

        I do like to stir the pot on occasion. Though not as much as I used to! Hard to believe I know. Yes, my comment was not to imply that we, as made in God’s image, are to be offended over all personal wrongs and therefore respond with anger, though I do think there are some situations that apply. But maybe to be offended by what offends God, and be angry at what angers God. And sometimes, sometimes, certain actions may be appropriate. Maybe this would be an illustration of being “angry and sin not”. I don’t know. Just pondering.

        • mtsweat says:

          Ah, soft in his elder age. Cool you mention the “angry and sin not” loophole I choose to enjoy often… just kidding (well, then again, maybe not).Honestly, you do not know how much I miss our conversations of old friend.It is hard to create relationships where you can just be you and express our inadequacies to fully understand everything God has said. Miss ya’ll Brother… tell the family hello!

  2. Dear MT .. I don’t know the answer either .. I struggle with this concept daily .. I’ve been on both sides of this issue .. Ive defended myself and kept my comments inside … I believe it’s never time for retaliation!! But holding back my side of the issue give me mental and physical pain. Expressing my side ends with isolation which causes a myriad of emotions teetering between sorrow and bitterness . My favorite verse in these times is Zephenia 3:17 He will quiet you with His love .. BUT not being offended?? I stumble every time

    • mtsweat says:

      It is so good to hear from you dear friend. This book, not sure I am defending it, has at least caused me to carefully consider some thoughts of how much I tend to be offended… then consider my motivation. Humble thoughts you offer.

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